When a new baby is coming into the family and you already have another child there is bound to be some jealousy. Your formerly only child will resent the preparations being made for the new member of the family and then the attention this baby will get. Some children are able to express these feelings and start acting out, throwing fits or tantrums and even saying that they´re not happy. Others, however, don´t say a thing and seem to be handling it quite well, but seem quiet or sad at times. Any way your child reacts, you should try to reassure them that they are still loved and very important. Explain to them that the baby needs attention because he or she still can´t do anything independently. Here are some tips to help your older child understand:
- Post pictures of your older child as a baby on the refrigerator door. Comment on how you remember how he or she did this or that. Change the pictures as your baby grows to show ones that depict your child at the baby´s age.
- Have the new baby "bring" a special surprise to your child when he goes to meet him at the hospital. (small toy, stuffed animal, book)
- Ask close family members to bring a piece of candy or chocolate bar to your child when they come to meet the baby.
- Make a special ribbon or button for your child to wear during the baby´s first days. It can read "New Brother/Sister" or "World´s best older brother/sister".
- Include your child in the baby care as much as safely possible. Have them give you the moisturizer, arrange diapers, even choose which clothes the baby should wear.
- If your child´s birthday is coming up, or Christmas, Valentine´s Day or any gift giving occasion, make sure the baby gives something to your child.
- Whenever the baby reaches a milestone, talk to your child about when he or she did that, and if possible show them videos or pictures.
